Marriage Intensive
I have been blessed to work with couples for years. What I find is by the time couples get into my office there have been years and years of pain, bitterness and resentment that have built up between two people who once felt so much love for one another. Quite a wall stands between true intimacy in these couples. Most couples who book an intensive are at a place of such disconnect that they cannot continue with things the way they are any longer.
A marriage intensive offers couples a unique opportunity to “jump start” healing and restorative work that needs to take place very quickly in order for hope to be formed. For many couples weekly therapy is insufficient in getting to the heart of the issues due to the time constraints of the traditional hour long therapy session. Couples find that they spend so much of that time spinning their wheels and that no real traction can be formed.
Intensives are offered in two or three day formats in one on one therapy. Couples have time to share their experience in their marriage and the unique wounds that they carry. As they do this a clearer picture is formed of the longstanding dynamics that have led to a breakdown in their connection. Foundational to this work s an exploration of how our individual stories of origin have shaped the way we attune to oneanother as well as protect against the pain of disconnection. We will spend time engaging a new way to hear and hold that which has not been able to be held well. My approach in working with couples is evidence based and hope-filled, leading many to transformation in their marriages. A transformation that I find best takes place within the intensive format. This format allows for a break down in the barriers of protective walls that have been built up over the years to discover a more vulnerable self, a core self that we can offer ourselves and our spouses.
This is not a couples retreat, rather, intense work that leaves couples exhausted, but heard and seen, sometimes for the first time in decades. I can’t say enough about the intensive opportunity. To be a part of this sacred work has been such a blessing for me both professionally and personally as I see couples who were ready to call it quits rekindle a newness of love and compassion for one another and their stories that they thought would never exist again.